Well..what can i say. Alert spoiler here, from the interview of MARS and VENUS by Richard Gray from myside..

At two days ago,  i saw a tv program.  The topic was a book entitled mars and venus. The bestseller book which was sold for more than 40 million to whole the world. The presenter was Desi Anwar and the guests were Mr.Tung Sem and the author of the book, Dr. Richard Gray.

Here they are, me and some of my friends were watching tv and we also discussed about what was happening on tv.

Richard gray, a communication expert, explained that he started to discussed his mind about mars and venus to people about 20 years ago and nobody was agree with his theory.

But now, many people read his book. Then…eng ing engg….wkwkwk… so many unimportant craps i was talking hehehe… so let just begin

Mars and Venus. This is how he describing the Man and Woman. Richard said that if woman wanted to be success, she needs help from a man.. “hello..is this needed?? this is the truth??”.. and he continued again “because all of us know, occupation was controlled by man. This is man area, so woman who gets the top position must have a manfriend” *this is weird if i said man friend?”

“but, 70% of top higher people for some of occupation in USA right now are women” he said. “because some women knows how to ask men properly. And now this is the difference with public mind. woman  always think that the man should react first. Women always think that ” he should understand me, but why he doesn’t?

Hellooo…A man will never know what woman  wants if she doesn’t tell him. So woman should ask the man what she wants. BUtt….. there is an art how to ask him.

an ART

Many women doesn’t know this asking art. eventhough this is just an simple art. To ask a man, woman just need to go to the POINT. Yeah, just a point without any grudge first. For example, if you need your husband to close the door, do not said “omg..look at the wind, so cold, so, can you close the door”. but woman should say something like this “can you close the door please?”

Thats the differences. Woman is go out the stress with talking everythings. When woman talks, there is an oxitosin from brain which getting woman stress out, but when man heard woman’s talking, an oxitosin in man just make a man asleep.

Then, somehow, woman just need to be listened without solving problem. Sometimes, she ask you about something but they already know the answer. She just need a support. That’s why sometimes man can feel confuse. The example is just like this (my example)

w : “Which one is better, the gray or the blue one”

m : ” the blue one”

w : ” hmm… i choose the gray”

the man will think why this woman asking me this question if she already knew the answer. It means that the woman just want his man to support her choice without telling she want the gray one. She already knew the answer.  I don’t know she just forgot or want to be understand. hm…this is just an example. But somehow, they will ask you about something they really didn’t know about a choice. Maybe you should ask her first. This is just a support or really asking…heheheh…

Then about a score board. Woman is appreciate about small things. So if you ask her “what about your day?” or calling her just to say goodnite or you said that “hmm your dress is good”, from these 3 comments, you will get 3 points, and if you got work and come home with bring your present, your present also have 1 point.  so, small things are also important compare to big things.

For men, if women did small things for them, it would get 1 point. But.. the women will be precious if she didn’t cornered the guys for their mistakes and she will got 100 points, and for man, if they work, and get top position or their work are good, they will get 100 point in their eyes. But for woman, if you just got home and didn’t care about small things and rare to adore her,  you just get small point.

See!! the differences between woman and man. The scoreboards are different.  You can’t ask her / him to be you, and just in other way. Do not hope something like a man will do this, or woman should do this!! and threat them differently…If you are the bos and you have woman employee, maybe you can ask what about the situation before they came to the office, and the woman will tell you about the huge traffic jam and said “why this is not can be like this or that or what or anything”. And maybe you as a man will just ask in your heart, “why do you ask that, all of us know the answer”. That’s the point like i said before, woman talk s everything, and if you listened to her, she will loyal to your company.  But if your employee is a man, do not ask too much. Man has habit to solve his problem by himself. If you ask him too much, he will feel that you don’t believe him except he really needs your answer.  Well, woman look in detail and man look in general.

Then, the differences are also about the cooperative. Woman wants to work cooperate with another, and a man think he can do it by himself. That’s why woman always ask somebody although they already know the answer, she needs  support and cooperative. But for man, he will solve his problem himself. So that’s why man is less talk than woman. Man will never bring his problem to home, or home problem to his work.  This is his rightfully proud if he can solve it by himself.

Actually, man and woman can fill each other, if they know and understand that man and woman are different, they will be like a circle of yin and yang. Well, A Communication ART

So, for woman, you just need to talk less and for man you need to listen more.